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Create A Naughty Home The French Way |
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Create A Naughty Home The French Way
Decorating your house with a focus on the senses can change the way that you experience your home and feel about yourself. By making your home inviting to yourself and your guests, you can transform your space into a sexy retreat from the outside world. By being aware of how the elements in our home stimulate the senses, we can manipulate them to make the most sensual environment for ourselves, our friends, and our lovers.
A beautiful home can restore and replenish both visitors and the people who live there unlike anything else. Every time I open the door to my home, I want a wave a pleasure to wash over me, leaving me feeling instantly sexy and luxurious. I want guests who cross my doorstep to feel worries melt away, as all of their senses become consumed with calm sensuality. This is especially important for my lovers, who I want to leave with a desire to come back for more.
The qualities I desire out of my home are not unique. Across history and cultures, people have used home design to cultivate sexy spaces. Hosting guests with grace and abundance takes the form of art in many places today, as hosts strive to pamper guests with utmost generosity. Unfortunately, the mainstream focus on interiors can be uptight and keen to gloss over sexuality rather than to cultivate it, an unfortunate turn of events for naughty girls and their guests.
For my home, I turn to the sensuality-soaked designs of France, where people have never shied away from the sexy side of life. Through French design, we can learn how to engage all five senses in our homes to maximize the erotic potential for ourselves and our guests. In "Fatale: How French Woman Do It," author Edith Kunz sets up some ground rules by stating, 'it all starts with the grand welcome. The flattering acknowledgement at the door...surpasses any greeting given in public. And the reception of guests is a studied art in Europe.'
I incorporate her advice into my home by attending to the entrance, greeting my guests with fuzzy slippers to wear and offering them a choice of seating: by fire or fountain, to suit whatever element my guests' nerves require. By ritualizing how we let people into our homes, we enhance the home's spa-like power. You can emphasize your hospitality by catering to all of the senses. Edith Kunz sums it up best when she writes, 'To set the stage for sublime moments one can activate all the forces of sight, smell, taste and sound to arouse the anticipation for the final explosion.'
The next time you get an urge to nest or redecorate, be mindful in what you choosing, taking care to pick items that suit your tastes and make you feel sexy through all of your senses. By being true to yourself, you can become the best host possible by harnessing your confidence and feminine power. Not only will you feel sexier in your own home, you can let your inner femme fatale out to play in all of her glory.
Remember, it all starts at the door. To truly entertain guests with genuine hospitality, give a grand welcome. Be attuned their needs and your own to genuinely leave the world at the door step and enter the naughty oasis of your making.
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Sight
It's our most relied-upon sense. We have visions, foresight, hindsight, and insight. We gather most of our information from our sense of vision, and sight goes hand in hand with understanding. As such, using imagery and visual design is one of the most obvious, but least understood ways to make the home more sensual.
Candles Everywhere
French Technique
The easiest way to inject some visual oomph into your home is to use candles to your advantage. Kunz tells us that 'Frenchwomen have no intention of giving up candlelight just because electricity is so abundant.' This is due to the simple candle's extraordinary light, whose flickering flames seduce, flatter, and smooth. In "Fatale: How French Woman Do It," we're told that lovers entering a French woman's home will encounter 'dim lighting and candles, hiding the cracks in the ceiling and softening any lines on the brow of the lady.'
For Your Home
Candles are inexpensive and effective, so adding them to your home can make a huge impact on a small budget. Candlelight makes me feel so sexy that I've covered my house and patios with 117 candles. I even have candles on my stairs and in my hallway leading to my bedroom. This creates a very erotic atmosphere for what's to come for my lovers. This sounds like a lot, but majority of them are battery-operated candles that illuminate via a timer, so I'm not forced to spend time lighting and extinguishing them every night. Since I still love the glow of real candles, I keep several in each room, lighting them as needed to set the mood for myself and my lovers.
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- Buy Flameless Battery Tea Light Candles Here
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Using Fabrics, Textures, and Ornamentation
French Technique
A quick Google search on French interior design yields page after page of beautiful homes showcasing luxury and visual opulence through cascading fabrics, ornate chandeliers, plush seating areas, and textiles of varying patterns and textures. Everything about French design cultivates visual luxury, coaxing you inside, seducing you, influencing your desires, making you want to reach out and touch. One of the most famous French design elements is Toile de Jouy, a fabric or wall paper in muted colors depicting rather detailed scenes. Toile de Jouy is genius in how it attracts attention; it's not flashy, but it compels you to search through its scenes for an underlying story.
For Your Home
My home has tall ceilings that create a feeling of grandeur. White, sheer curtains and cascading chandeliers add visual interest, texture, and luxury, while two separate living spaces cater to my guests. A fireplace invites lounging and conversation over tea, while a couch area invites guests to snuggle up to window-side along a textured, furry rug. My space is designed to welcome and allure with rich fabrics, textures, and light.
You can add some of this visual sensuality to your own home by hanging ceiling-to-floor curtains that visually extend the length of your walls and add a dimension of texture and richness, choosing lighting fixtures that tantalize, and selecting textured rugs for designated seating areas. Don't cover your house in Toile de Jouy if that doesn't inspire you or suit your own taste; choose colors, fabrics, textures and patterns that appeal to you.
- Buy Crystal Chandelier Here
- Buy Moroccan Style Crystal Candelier Here
- Buy White Sheer Voile Curtains Here
- Buy White Damask Curtains Here
- Buy Sexy Red Curtains Here
- Buy White Shag Rug Here
- Buy White & Black Damask Pillows Here
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Wall Art for Seduction
French Technique
Throughout history, French artists have obsessed over the female form and the erotic. Even when confined by social decorum, artists expressed their intentions creatively. Edgar Degas' ballerinas, Eugene Delacroix's exotic costumes and nudes, Henri de Toulouse-Latrec's Moulin Rouge girls, and the abstract dancers of Henri Matisse all celebrate a woman's body in a classically French way. Women can channel the sexual undertones of the French masters just as readily with modern art, erotic photography, and suggestive designs. Used to entice, titillate, or hint at what's to come for lucky guests, sexy wall art can set the tone for a naughty girl's home.
For Your Home
Seductive photos of Hollywood starlets greet those lucky gentlemen who receive invites to the floor of my house containing my bedroom. Marilyn Monroe, wearing nothing but lingerie, smiles suggestively, leading the way to my most intimate room. Vintage nudes from the 1920's hung like museum art adorn the wall of my bedroom itself, along with suggestive lotus flowers, symbolizing the divine womb, fertility, and the vagina. The lotus flower is also known as 'padma' or 'kamala,' and can be a good choice for ladies who need to be more discreet with their imagery.
I use photos and lotus flowers beyond the bedroom as well. Starlets from Hollywood's golden age mingle with contemporary women whose sex appeal and confidence I admire, like Dita Von Teese. While some of these images are overtly sexy, with stars clad in lingerie and sprawled across fur rugs, others are sexy because of their personal meaning to me. For instance, many guests might not know Dita Von Teese as a burlesque star, so her headshot might not be seductive, where as I feel sexy and glamorous each time it catches my eye. I also take sexual energy from a portrait of Marilyn Monroe sitting with her legs crossed, chin on hand, laughing. The photo is innocent enough, but her beauty and carefree nature appeal to my sexy side. A picture of the Eiffel Tower in Paris that I have hung in my bathroom is extremely suggestive to me, as well.
Curating wall art that ignites your sexuality across your home is an important step in creating your own naughty oasis through visual stimulation, but you have to match your own aesthetic. While not everyone loves large-scale nude photography, anyone can find images that seduce, even if it's your own dirty little secret. Perhaps you find inspiration from Japanese Geisha culture, the bustling red light district in Amsterdam, or the mythical feminine power of Cleopatra. The key is finding what revs your engine and meets the needs of your home.
- Buy Naughty Coffee Table Book Here
- Buy Sexy Wall Art Here
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A Boudoir Bedroom
French Technique
The visual abundance described earlier doesn't stop in the living room. The French bedroom design is all about the ritual of sex, with mirrors for light play and visual stimulation, dressers to house lingerie and conceal secrets, and fluffy spaces for pillow talk. Here fabrics are as important as ever, given their ability to turn the visual into the tactile. A typical French boudoir design capitalizes on the relationship between fabric and color. Colors associated with sex cover the walls and bed linens, while canopies and curtains add extra visual interest and enhance the desire to touch.
Kunz says French women 'dress their beds with the same care and consideration that they give to their selection of underwear. They place great importance on the art of visual coquetry, thus setting up an atmosphere to best frame all their other practiced flirtations. The extra effort is not considered an imposition, but an opportunity to participate in the agreeable art of allure.'
For Your Home
All of my linens are white, providing the perfect blank canvas for naughty deeds. I use the finest sheets and bed dressings everyday to make my bedroom a luxury all the time, and to aspire to the 'visual coquetry' noted by Kunz. Dressing up your bed is one way to visually stimulate the senses, but what you hang over your bed is just as important. I have used mirrors in the past, but today I have mounted a beautiful, wooden lotus flower to stimulate my sexual energy. And let's not forget the most important item everyone needs in their bedroom, a fan for all those hot steamy nights. While saunas have a place in this world, I want my lovers to find my bedroom an exotic, sensual oasis, not a steam bath.
The rest of my bedroom is furnished with useful and beautiful items. I have a Venetian mirrored dresser topped with flowers, candles, an erotic Buddha figurine, and sensual framed images all positioned under another mirror. This is not an ordinary bureau, as it packs in three whole drawers of sex toys! In another corner sits a white chair and ottoman that match the boudoir aesthetics I love while providing a place to relax and, of course, working as props on certain nights. Combined with candlelight and my erotic photos on the walls, all of the items in my bedroom facilitate sex through visual stimulation.
You can give your own bedroom a makeover by taking a look around your space and asking yourself, "What makes your feel sexy?" Add decor, linens, or furniture that allures you. If you can't get rid of an ugly dresser or terrible feature in your room, get creative with solutions, looking for paints, fabrics, or decor that masks the problem or draws the eye elsewhere. With a little bit of creativity and soul-searching, you can make any room sensual.
- Buy Venetian Mirror Here
- Buy Gorgeous Red Bed Set Here
- Buy Silk Sheets Here
- Buy Liberator Bulster Pillow For Sex Positions Here
- Buy Liberator Sex Throw To Keep Sheets Clean Here
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Smell
The sense tied most closely with memory, our relationship with smell ties us to our pasts and helps us remember new treasured moments we're not keen to forget. Fragrance is also strongly linked with our sexuality, in both the animalistic craving of the smell of warm, pulsing flesh, and our tendency to associate certain scents and perfumes with seduction. Throughout history women have used aromas as a tool of seduction from Cleopatra's perfumed oils to the early Romans' bathhouse culture, but no one uses perfume like the French (Kunz, 55). Plus studies have shown that if we lose our sense of smell then our sex drive decreases.
Use Fragrance
French Technique
Again, Edith Kunz lets us know how to best use fragrance within the home, telling us that 'true femme fatales will plan meticulously for their intimate encounters even though they can give the appearance that surprise surrender is utterly spontaneous. Women well-versed in 'pleasure power' fluff their pillows and sheets with lavender sachets and powders while augmenting the atmosphere with perfumed candles.' This is very important when setting the stage for the arrival of your lover, but it's important not to be too conspicuous with your intentions by overloading fragrance. Instead, aromas within the home can create a sexual atmosphere seemingly effortlessly.
For Your Home
Prepare for intimate encounters by living sensually everyday. Even if you are home alone, light some scented candles and use sachets. By pampering yourself regularly with sexy rituals, you're preparing yourself mentally and giving yourself confidence to pull off those big bang moments effortlessly and naturally. Even if I'm home alone, I still light candles and my fireplace, play sensual music, wear lingerie, and shave my legs to feel sexy. That way when I'm entertaining a lover, I'm being myself and not putting on an act.
You also want to moderate the use of fragrance in the home; don't go overboard! A few scented candles should do the trick-you don't need a synthetic fragrance plug-in pumping in the favorite smell of some huge corporation's marketing department. You want to use just enough aroma to imbue your space with an erotic quality and set the scene for intimate encounters. You can easily adjust to the smells in your own space, so you want to use just a hint of fragrance, as your guests will not be as accustomed, and you don't want to overwhelm. Sachets are ideal for distributing aromas delicately and continuously. They're also very French.
- Buy Lavendar Sachets Here
- Buy Bath & Body Works Aromatherapy Lavender Spray Here
- Buy Tibetan Incense Burner Here
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Taste
Food and sensuality go hand in hand. From the artful imbibing of aphrodisiacs to the old adage, 'the way to a man's heart is through his stomach,' food primes the body for experiencing pleasure. France is known for its rich culinary history, from ancient wineries and cheese producers to macarons in contemporary flavors and colors.
Dining as Theater
French Technique
Kunz tells us that French women are known for never allowing 'an opportunity to go by that may give them more influence and power over the opposite sex. Leave it to the French to transform the necessity of daily nourishment into 'the theater of fine dining'.' With their flair for food, fashion, and hospitality, a deliberate, formal dinner plays a central part in French romance and seduction. A French dinner is not a casual affair. Instead, the dinner table is dressed as carefully as the diners, with care taken in everything from the selection of the menu to the candelabra adorning the table. Kunz emphasized the importance of the dinner, saying that through food 'a guest will be more likely to remember a magical atmosphere and gracious ambiance.'
For Your Home
You don't have to be Julia Child to put on a fabulous dinner. The important part is to serve indulgent food with elegance, preferably finger foods which you can feed to each other. If you enjoy cooking, share that with your lover. If you'd like to learn, practice making a few simples dishes for yourself and for friends before attempting a home-cooked dinner theater so it seems natural. If selecting recipes and making food is not your forte, you can always buy a prepared meal from a grocery store or restaurant. Just reheat your meals and serve it on your own sexy dishes. Remember that presentation of your food is just as important.
Set the table with flowers and candles and use real napkins to reveal utmost hospitality and engage other senses. While you don't need to serve deliberately unhealthy food, it's generally best to drop the diet during a seductive dinner. The food should tempt and tantalize, giving your lover the chance to indulge in the pleasure of taste. First he tastes food, then he tastes you. Just be sure not to overeat or else you may end up in an unsexy food coma or feeling too bloated for "dessert."
Visit the links below to buy the perfect
dish sets for dinner for two and tapas style eating:
- Buy Bowl Sets Here
- Buy Sauce Dishes Here
- Buy Plate Set Here
- Buy Dish Set Here
Visit the links below to buy cookbooks
perfect for cooking easy meals & dinner for two:
- Buy Cooking for Two: 2010 Here
- Buy Tapas: Sensational Small Plates From Spain Here
- Buy 100 Perfect Pairings: Small Plates to Enjoy with Wines You Love Here
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Aphrodisiacs to Set the Mood
French Technique
When using food as a prelude to sex or as a part of seduction, setting the table with foods that evoke sex can help set the mood. French foods are common aphrodisiacs, with items like oysters on the half shell, cream-kissed berries, champagne, and chocolate inciting a pleasure that starts on your tongue and lingers in the body.
For Your Home
Pulling off an oyster dinner in your own home would be difficult without kitchen staff! If you want to use aphrodisiacs in your dinner theater, you can choose any food that makes you feel sexy, carnal, or hot. For some ladies, this might be ripping meat off of ribs before licking your fingers sensually. Vegetarian naughty girls might serve whole artichokes, whose many layers can be peeled off and eaten one by one, revealing the tender, succulent center.
If planning an aphrodisiac meal is too daunting, it's better to go out to eat than fumble through a home-cooked meal without confidence; you can always come back to the house for champagne or dessert. Or, you can turn yourself into dessert. To do this, cover your bed with plastic or an old sheet and surround yourself with sexy edibles like chocolate syrup, strawberries, cherries, and whipped cream. This way, you're tantalizing his taste buds by letting him taste you.
Visit the links below to buy items for a naughty dessert with your lover:
- Buy Fondue Set Here
- Buy Great Party Fondues Cookbook Here
- Buy Bite By Bite: 100 Stylish Little Plates You Can Make for Any Party Cookbook Here
- Buy Chocolate Body Paint Here
- Buy Chocolate Edible Thong Here
- Buy Chocolate Board Game Here
- Buy Liberator Moisture-Proof Throw For Messy Fun Here
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Touch
From the feel of your lover's hand grazing your skin to the warmth of a velvety blanket, touch is an integral part of a naughty oasis. Even the look of some fabrics can beckon us to come in closer, just as the suggestion of cleavage under a top begs to be caressed.
Soft Fabrics for Furniture and Rugs
French Technique
French design emphasizes fabrics throughout the home, as they transition us from using our sense of vision to the more intimate sense of touch. While our sight is what we use for information, it's the most distant. Floor-length curtains, plush upholstered furniture, and luxurious blankets commonly appear in French homes. Even in the kitchen, textiles appear in the form of curtains, cloth napkins, table clothes, placemats, and tea towels.
For Your Home
You can easily add a bit of luxury to your home through textiles. If you're buying furniture, select pieces that have a soft and cozy feel to them. For existing furniture, take some time to sit down and analyze what could make that space more comfortable. If a couch or a chair could use some help in the comfort department, you can add a cashmere blanket and soft, textured pillows to surround yourself with tactile pleasure. Don't forget to cozy up your favorite lounging areas with a soft rug; I love my fuzzy white number in my living room!
I've designed my house so that every seating area is comfortable, even my dining banquet and patio furniture! I mix up the textures, including soft, smooth, silky, and furry, to excite the senses through different sensations. Setting the scene with soft, cozy furniture is a great way to make lovers feel comfortable and welcome.
You can indulge in your sense of touch beyond your furnishings by wearing a soft, fluffy robe and slippers, and providing them to your guests as well. Not only will this get you in the mood to snuggle, it helps define your sense of home to yourself, and your style of hospitality to your visitors, whether they are lovers, family members, or friends.
Items to add to your house that are extra soft to touch & feel good on your skin:
- Buy Brookstone Nap Luxe Blanket Here
- Buy Soft Spa Robe Here
- Buy Spa Slippers Here
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Soft & Sensual Bed Linens
French Technique
I'll let Edith Kunz describe the ultimate femme fatale's bedding:
'... a billowing white virginal bed with clouds of goose down tasseled pillows smelling of sentimental lavender lifts a man's thoughts to heavenly heights. Perhaps the contrast of such feminine finery compared to their own sleeping quarters is part of the captivating fascination that grips most men as they are enveloped in the sensuous folds of softness...It's rare that they can resist sinking into these luxurious linens without a sensation of joy'
In practical terms, Kunz suggests making your bed exciting to the touch-this will coax your lovers into lingering longer. Going beyond the bedroom, you want your lovers and house guests alike to luxuriate in the bathing process with quality towels and silky soaps.
For Your Home
There's a reason why men prefer to stay the night at their lover's home over their own. Women are more likely to surround themselves with soft, smooth, and silky pillows, duvets, blankets, and towels. It's easy to give your lover a night to remember with time spent spoiled and pampered in a sensational bed.
Whether or not I have a lover in my bed, I use the very best linens. We spend about a third of our lives and even more of our sex lives in our beds, so shouldn't we pay special attention to this intimate environment? I splurged on a comfortable mattress that I've covered in a goose down mattress pad that has elicited many a compliment from my various lovers. I use the best white silk and cashmere sheets that money can buy, as my bed is a priority to me. My sheets flirt with my skin and beckon lovers to come inside.
You can still create a lush and enticing bed on a budget. Goose down and memory foam mattress pads often go on sale in bedding stores and online. High quality pillows sell for under $50. Replacing a limp pillow with one that cushions and comforts can improve your bed's quality significantly and quickly. In addition, you can usually find pillow covers for your decorative and throw pillows for a good price; this is great way to add texture and luxury to your space without having to throw away what you have or start from scratch.
For any overnight guest, whether it's a friend visiting from out of down or a lucky man, I make sure to provide fresh towels, robes, slippers, and even extra toothbrushes and toiletries. The bathing experience relaxes and primes the skin for whatever is to come. Offering these comforts to guests demonstrates your hospitality through the experience of touch.
Buy the items below to make your bed extra soft and luxurious to sleep in:
- Buy Gorgeous Red Bed Set Here
- Buy Silk Sheets Here
- Buy Feather Bed Mattress Pad Here
- Buy Goose Down Comforter Here
- Buy Goose Down Pillows Here
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Sound
Sound surrounds us wherever we go from the rustling of leaves to the cries we emit in the throes of passion. As such, our sense of hearing proves very important when teasing each other for erotic pleasure. Whether through playing music or listening to a fire crackle, sound sets the mood for sex.
Design Ambient Sound
French Technique
Whether through the crooning of Serge Gainsbourg and Madeleine Peyroux, the dull hum of a nearby cafe, or the exquisite placement of a fountain, the French use carefully chosen ambient aural pleasures in seduction to both relax and stimulate lovers.
For Your Home
Be attuned to your guests, whether you intend to have sex with them or not, and anticipate their needs. Is a visitor frazzled? Sleepy? In need of an energy boost? Music and sound can calm or rouse our psyches, depending on the source. If a guest or lover is weary, treating them to gentle music can soothe and invigorate. Stressed out? Soothe nerves with the sound of water babbling from a fountain or by drawing a bath.
I keep a variety of music and sounds on hand in my house to suit the aural environment to my needs and those of my guests. Playing jazz evokes smooth sensuality and global beats from Latin America or the Middle East spice things up. I love having a fireplace and water fountains available, so that I can treat my senses with natural sounds when I need them. Most home decor stores have small fountains available, so even the city apartment dweller can include this natural sound in the home.
Visit the link below to find a sexy collection of my CD's.
- Buy Sexy Music Here
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